Must Read: A Big Message To The Unmarried Ladies

My fellow unmarried women, it’s not that I
have a vendetta against you; I just want to
address some of the things you do, which I
think are supremely silly. Yes, I’m ranting
about the unmarried women today. This post
is targeted at, but not limited to desperate
unmarried women.

I know that marriage has always been an
important thing for many women, but the
race for it today is becoming so bad, it’s
almost diabolic. Yes, many women are doing
all sorts of infernal things to get stay married.
Young woman that wants to get married,
pause a bit and ask yourself this important
question: why do I want to get married?
I ask you to do this because your reason for
getting married may very well determine the
kind of man you hook up with. If you want to
be happy in your union, you’ll carefully and
prayerfully choose a spouse. But if you want
to be married because all your friends are, or
because your family thinks so or because
society says your clock is ticking, you may
very well end up making the wrong choice.
Such as a man that abuses you-be it
physically, verbally, emotionally or

No matter what you say, there are always
signs of an abuser, whether he’s a budding or
full-blown practitioner of the punching, verbal
or emotional slicing arts.
When a man makes you stay on a video chat
for 24 hours, just so that he can see where
you are at all times, he’s an abuser. Please
don’t tell me that “he’s just a bit jealous” or
“you know men are like that”….that’s not “a
bit” of jealousy and not all men are like that!
When a man makes you take pictures of
yourself and send it to him 24 hours a day, so
he knows where and who you’re with, my
sister you’re in bondage…..only that your
master hasn’t paid your purchase price. Any
man that makes you do this, under the guise
that his heart has been broken by the
previous women in his life and therefore, you
need to earn his trust, is a confirmed wizard.
He needs Jesus and you need a copy of the
Slavery Abolition Act of 1833.

When a man flings objects at you during an
argument, throws and breaks his phone
against the wall and says “Look what you
made me do,” he will one day throw you and
blame you for it. You’d better run away and
from that far distance, text him the number
of a psychiatrist and enrol him for an anger
management course.

When a man tells you that once you get
married, because his mother did it, you too
will pound yam for him while you’re nine
months pregnant, wash his car, feed your
three children and drop them off at school,
clean the house, do the family laundry, go
shopping etc. without help of any sort, I’ll
only say this: are you familiar with the letters

When you’re in a relationship with a man who
arbitrarily picks up your phone, deletes some
male contacts, text messages, grills you
whenever you pick a call from a man, logs
into your Facebook account and abuses and
warns off all the men who say nice things to
you, tells you which friends to keep and the
ones to dismiss, and short of getting you a
bodyguard, monitors your movements in
every way possible, I’d like to inform you that
that man is not man who loves you, but a
monitoring, familiar spirit. The earlier you’re
delivered from him, the better for you.
Having said that, I’d like to add that some of
this kind of men can smell desperation and
know that there’s little or nothing you can or
would want to do to them.

So my advice to you dear prospective bride, is
build your self-esteem, be proud of who you
are, be picky (yes, contrary to popular
opinion, you don’t have to drag the bottom of
the barrel), and know that you deserve a
good man. Take your time; because once you
make your choice, you’re stuck with him.
Don’t be in haste- for where the hare gets to
by running, the tortoise will arrive there by


About Nike Adedokun

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