4 Steps To A Successful Online Dating (Relationship)

This is for people who are trying to have a relationship online.

1. The Profile
The key to successful dating online is a well-written user
profile. A profile is the unique, customizable area on an
online dating site that contains biographical information
about yourself, as well as photographs and details about
what you’re looking for in a potential mate. ”A lot of
people get really intimidated by the profile process,” says
Whitney Casey, relationship insider for Match.com. “But
when you think about it, when you go out, you get only
one chance to make a great first impression. With a
profile, you get as many as you want.” Casey suggests
new users break down their profile in to four parts—the
picture, the headline, the username and the paragraph.
Gather a group of friends to help you out, and go step-by-
step. “Your friends are going to keep you honest,” she
says. “Plus, they’ll make sure you use the best picture of
yourself.”

2. The Picture
Stay recent and real, Casey says. All pictures should be
taken within the last six months and feature a head shot,
as well as a full body shot. “Putting up pictures that
represent what you look like means you don’t have to
worry later, if he or she doesn’t call you to go out again,
that it’s because of how you look,” Allison says. “Be
honest about who you are.”
Avoid pictures of yourself with either too many props or
too many other people. “Find a happy medium between
being Action Jackson and Mr. or Miss Poser,” Casey says.
“Your main picture should be just you, and not you
wearing sunglasses or you holding your dog. Use those
photos for the supplemental pictures.”
Update photos as much as possible. Casey suggests
including photos from recent vacations as well as those
that feature you taking part in a hobby you enjoy. “They
make good conversation starters,” she says.
Don’t include too many pictures of you with other
people.”There are so many guys online who will include
pictures of themselves with other women,” Allison says.
“You don’t know who those women are, and it sends the
wrong impression.”

3. Get in It to Win It
Dr. Gian Gonzaga, a senior research scientist with
eHarmony, says a key component to online dating is
patience. “Imagine you’re walking into a bar with 100
people in it. Services like eHarmony show you 10 people
who you could go out with,” he says. “But that doesn’t
mean they’re perfect, just that they share important
characteristics that are the basis for a good relationship.
People spend years searching for a relationship. You can’t
give up because you go on a couple of dates that don’t
work out.” Casey agrees. “People put a lot of pressure on
themselves when they date online, especially if people
have exchanged a few great e-mails. Practice makes
perfect. You have practice at dating.” In fact, both
experts say that one of the hidden benefits of dating
online is that it allows people to critically examine what
they want out of life, not just out of a potential mate, in a
way they hadn’t done before. “It’s supposed to be fun,”
Gonzaga says. “We love to hear the stories about people
who end up married, but the life experience you gain,
and knowing that people are going out and enjoying their
lives, that makes us happy too.”

4. Happily Ever After
In June 2007, Allison set a reminder for herself on her
computer to cancel her online dating membership at
eHarmony. The demands of her job had taken a bite out
of her social schedule, and she hadn’t found anyone
promising in months. The money, she said, was going to
waste. ”And then I got busy at work, ignored the
reminder and forgot until I saw the deduction in my
checking account,” Allison said. “I was so mad at myself
because I got tired of spending the money.” The very next
day, she received this e-mail: “We’d like to introduce you
to Jeff from Chicago.” Nine months later, Jeff from
Chicago asked Allison to marry him. In May 2009, they
were married. Casey says stories like Allison’s aren’t
uncommon, but people should simply look at online
dating as a means to an end. “You have to take every
opportunity available to you,” she says. “It doesn’t mean
you can’t still meet people in real life; it just means
you’re enhancing your options.”
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Culled from Oprah notes.

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2 Responses to 4 Steps To A Successful Online Dating (Relationship)

  1. Dating fails says:

    Hi Nikziead, you are right the public profile and picture tells everything about a person. I you are really serious about online dating, it is very necessary to ha have a great profile and a nice picture. Girls normally likes professional looking profiles and decent looking boys so, it is essential to maintain the things like that. Thanks.

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