How to Be a Good Boyfriend
Being a good boyfriend isn’t always easy, even if you have an amazing girlfriend. To be a good boyfriend, you have to know how to communicate with your girl, and how to be loving and affectionate without smothering her. A good boyfriend knows how to understand where his girlfriend is coming and when to give her space. If you want to know how to do it, just follow these steps.
Be honest . In any relationship, honesty is almost always the best policy. If you’re honest from the
beginning of your relationship, then you’ll be less likely to run into trouble down the line. To be
honest, you should be comfortable telling your girlfriend what you were up to when you were
together and to talk about your past without going into too much detail. You should tell her what she needs to know without overwhelming her with the truth. If you had a serious past relationship, you can let
her know without revealing every little detail about your ex.
Temper your honesty with kindness. Don’t feel as if you have to make every response seem like a compliment. Instead, offer an alternative. For example, if she asks you if you like something she is trying on, let her know that it might work, but you think the blue one is your favourite so far because it shows off her great eyes. You should not only be comfortable with being honest, but you should be accepting of her
honesty as well. If you want to be a good boyfriend, you should be able to handle the truth.
Trust your girlfriend and give her
reason to trust you. Trust should form the foundation of your relationship; after all, love is a
combination of trust and commitment. This will allow you to create a more open relationship
toward each other, as well as creating a very good understanding in what your mate wants, feels, and needs.
You can trust your girlfriend by telling her something that a lot of people don’t know about you — because you really want her to
know. You can make her trust you by showing that you care and are concerned if she tells you
something personal and important to her. Contribute equally to conversations . When you talk, aim for at least a 60-40 balance in the flow of conversation. It’s awkward when a partner is either too quiet or too talkative. If you’re too quiet, she’ll think you’re not interested in her, or that you’re being distant. If you’re too talkative, she’ll think you’re self-obsessed or plain impolite. But if she’s naturally more shy or talkative than you are, don’t try to change her, either.
Conversations are about give and take. You shouldn’t just be telling her a long story, waiting for her to react. Obviously, there will be occasions when you do talk a lot (such as when something exciting or important happens) or when you retreat a bit (such as when something bad happens) but on
the whole, aim for a balance of conversation. When the talk seems to falter, use questions to
keep it going. Ask her what movies she enjoys and which are her favorites? Ask her what her
favorite season is and what she likes most about it. Ask her what her favorite toy was when growing up and why. You get the drift––
little questions can lead to more discussion.
Be a good listener.
Remember, the opposite of
talking is not waiting for your turn, it’s listening. Make sure you’re actually listening, not just
waiting for your turn to talk. Don’t listen too intensely and don’t stare––not once breaking eye
contact is a bit scary! Always seem interested and fully engaged in her presence. If you’re just waiting for her to stop talking so
you can say your part, it’ll be obvious. If she’s told you something twice before and
you have no idea what she’s talking about because you weren’t really listening, she’ll know and she won’t be happy about it.
Learn to compromise.
Compromise is a big part
of successful communication. If you and your girlfriend can’t disagree without getting into a big
fight or without one person immediately giving in to the needs of the other, then you have a problem. To be good at compromising, you should be able to talk about your needs and wants while understanding where your girlfriend is coming
from instead of ignoring her side of the story. After you and your girl both talk about what you think about a certain situation, you can
work together to make a pro and con list, and to decide what will be best for both of you. Sometimes, you and your girlfriend will have to
give in to one another. That’s okay, as long as you’re taking turns. If she picks the movie for date night, you should pick the dinner location. Part of learning to compromise is using a calm,
even voice when you have a disagreement, instead of yelling or not being willing to listen if
you don’t get your way.
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