Being a man with the mind. Like it or not, it takes more than a pair of cojones to achieve manhood. Cultures around
the world have rites of passage to symbolize it, as well as customs to preserve it. This article focuses on the journey from boyhood to
manhood, rather than any fundamental difference between men and women. Although
there is no one way to categorize manliness, there are certain attributes that people all
around the world consider “manly.” Here are a few.
1. Know yourself. Find out who you are and be happy with that person. There’s no one way to be a man. A real man can be a logger who wears plaid and doesn’t shower for 10 days; a real
man can also be a professor who talks about Milton and Shakespeare. All men, however, know who they are and respect themselves in and out.
2. Be knowledgeable about
something . It doesn’t really matter what it is, but you should consider yourself pretty familiar with one area of expertise. They know how to act. They use their smartsheads to get things
done. What area of expertise do you know? Here are just a few areas you might consider diving into. Have a glimpse of General knowledge,history,cars,career,economy and women too. Some men turn the opposite sex into a field of study. If you want to be knowledgeable about women, be prepared to make mistakes and learn from them. There’s nothing worse than a man who thinks he’s God’s gift to women, but who’s stubbornly insulting, cavalier, and clueless.
3. Know when you’ve made a
mistake and know when to say
“I’m sorry .” There’s nothing wrong with making a mistake. Only the insecure man thinks that making a mistake is bad, because he’s not comfortable with who he is in the first place. Confident men know when they’re wrong and aren’t afraid to admit it.
Learn to say “I’m sorry” in different ways. Men know that saying “sorry” doesn’t always have to be verbal. A ticket to a baseball game, breakfast in bed, and a camping trip are all ways to say “I’m sorry” without moving the old vocal chords back and forth. Men know that these are often more effective ways of communicating regret than two measly words.
4. Know the man-code. What is the
man-code? The man-code is an
unwritten set of rules that men live by, often evolving but rarely
changing. Take the man-code
seriously when you can. It tells other men that you respect them as much as you respect yourself.
5. Never initiate conversation with
other men at a urinal station. It is
never acceptable to choose a
urinal immediately adjacent to
another man if an open, further-
removed urinal is available.
No smiley-faces or emoticons are
necessary when texting another
guy. Although acceptable (not
preferable) to use when texting
women, keep use to a bare
minimum. Let go of self-destructive thoughts or customs . Understand that all men in all cultures may have, to some extent, been socialized in
ways that may be psychologically and culturally damaging, and may bring unhappiness. The first step in creating a sense of self in manhood is to examine the environment in which you were raised, as objectively as you
can. Did you grow up in a culture where it was acceptable to abuse
someone, whether physically or
verbally, who was “out of line” or
insubordinate? Violence is more
often the result of cowardice than
a genuine impulse to solve a
problem. Using violence or threats
against friends or family to “show
your authority” is unhealthy and
damaging. Were you taught that being “tough” means suppressing
emotion, holding in tears, and
never exposing vulnerability? The
drawback here is that you also
learn to internalize and suppress
these emotions which then fester
and get worse. Focus on being a
different kind of tough: be a
reliable, strong figure who can
handle adversity. The kind of
music you like, the clothes you
wear, whether you cry at sad
movies, buying your wife flowers,everything depends on your background. Being a man is a thing of the mind.
This is more on being a man with the mind. More to come on other seasons.( Culled from WikiHow).
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