Family isn’t always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways, and who not only embrace
who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be. These people – your real family – are the ones who truly matter. Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
1. Free yourself from negative people. –
Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and like-minded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.
2. Let go of those who are already gone. –
The sad truth is that there are some people who will
only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you toug it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.
3. Give people you don’t know a fair chance. –
When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new
relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to
learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life
4. Show everyone kindness and respect. –
Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice,
but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve
to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you
would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.
5. Accept people just the way they are. –
In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself
from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.
6. Encourage others and cheer for them. –
Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer
for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and
sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
7. Be your imperfectly perfect self. –
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you
feel pressured to impress. Be your imperfectly perfect self around them. We are not perfect for
everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us
and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.
8. Forgive people and move forward. –
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you
hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to
learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.
9. Do little things every day for others. –
Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts. You can’t be everything to
everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.
10. Pay attention to who your real friends are. –
As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh
with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are
a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones
who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter
Think about it. Make yourself happy today. Have you learnt more. Drop your comments.