Knowing whether you are
being lied to or not, does
not require mind reading or
psychic power. Understanding the difference between the truth and a lie can all be determined by a person’s behavior, and if you
pay attention to these behaviors, you will be able to have a better idea of whether you are being lied to or not. The most important thing you should always remember to do however is to trust your instincts. If you feel you are not getting the entire truth from your partner for some
reason, then listen to your instincts. Most people are in
good touch with their instincts, but rather not listen to that inner voice because they refuse to
believe that their partner would deceive them in any way. Staying in touch with your instincts will help guide you in the right direction. Though instincts are a great help, they can be tricky. Majority of the times, your instincts will not lie to you,
but there are times when your instincts can be influenced by your fears and insecurities. For example, you may already have fears of being cheated on, therefore you may feel that your partner is lying to you and cheating on you, when in fact he or she may be telling you the truth and completely faithful to you. This is why it is essential to
understand the behavior of a
liar, so that you can define the difference between really catching on to a liar, or just being paranoid that your partner is lying to.
Watch the Body Language
One important thing to
remember is that the body never lies. If there are changes in the way your partner moves (or does not move) his/her arms, hands,
head and the way his/her eyes shift, then you are most likely being lied to. The reason the body language changes when a person is lying is because the person now has to think of a way to seem convincing that he/she
is telling the truth. Since he/ she knows that whatever they are telling you is a lie, the behavior automatically changes because they are now trying to act truthful,
instead of actually being truthful. One big sign to look out for is in the eyes. If your partner avoids eye contact with you, then he/she is lying to you. There is a fear
that you will see through him
or her if there is eye contact,
so eye contact will be avoided. Whether you realize it or not, your body also communicates when you talk. When you are enthusiastic about telling your partner something and are telling
the truth, you will move your
hands around and will look into his/her eyes to make a connection. If your partner is
lying however, he or she will be
tensed up, will most likely
tone down on the hand movement and eye connection and will seem different than other times. If your partner is the type to still move his/her hands
around even when he/she is
lying, then pay attention to the timing of the movements. Timing is everything and can define
the difference between the
truth and a lie. When a person is telling the truth for example, his/her hands (and whatever body movement he/she does) will move at the same time when telling you something. When he/she is lying however, the body
language will be off and will
usually come shortly after he/she has told you the lie.
This is because they have to
think about acting natural,
and this thinking causes
them to be off key.
Last but not Least: Clearing
of the throat, touching him or herself often and saying“Umm”
Another sign of a lying partner is if he/she touch his/her nose or face a lot while talking to you. They will feel nervous about telling you lies and will want to
occupy their hands somehow
as a way to cover up their lie, such as touching the nose, rubbing their eyes and so on. Your partner may even clear his or her throat more than usual when talking to you, look away a
lot and/or say “umm” a lot when lying to you. They are using these as time killers so they can think of how to tell you the lie in the most convincing way possible.
These are just some of the
signs of a lying partner and
are the most common signs.
Remember, it is always important to trust your instincts first. If you feel that your partner is lying to you, start paying closer attention
to his/her behavior and if there are any changes, then you will be able to catch on to the lies better and can further investigate from that point.
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