Learn to forgive and forget.


When someone you
love hurts you, it is
challenging to know
how to manage and
cope with the hurt. Do
you forgive or do you
forget the person?
Many of us have been
faced with this
situation and have
ended up in a place of
confusion and fear. If
you forgive, you chose
to erase the mistake
and hope that things
will get better. When
you forgive you run a
risk of staying in a
situation where things
will stay the same or
become worse. If you
forget the person, you
erase that person from
your life completely,
throwing away the
good with the bad.
Leaving the person also
runs a risk of loosing
something good. So
how do you decide
what is best?
My girl friend told me
a horrendous story
about catching her
boyfriend living a
double life. As I
listened to her story
my stomach turned as
I internalized her pain.
Even after living a lie,
suffering the
heartbreak, and being
deceived for over a
year, my girl friend
reconciled her
relationship with her
boyfriend. How could
she possibly go back to
a person who had
done her so
wrong? ”He apologized
everyday for months.
He cried until he ran
out of tears, he’s
begged and pleaded
with me to stay with
him and to forgive
him,” she explained.
Is she stupid for taking
him back? Or is she a
virtuous person for
being able to forgive?
Questions I’m sure we
have all asked
ourselves once
forgiveness, one must
make sure the apology
is genuine. A genuine
apology consist of
sincerity, remorse and
change. A genuine
apology has no
excuses. The person
apologizing should
state the wrong done
without using the word
“but” or any other
justification for the
wrong. To prove the
sincerity of the apology
a person should offer
to make a change to
make things
better.Once the above
is in effect, one can
then consider what to
do next: To forgive or
to forget? The most
important part of this
is to understand that
you have a CHOICE.
You can CHOSE to
The choice to forgive
involves a daily choice
to trust. It also
involves other
behaviors like
conquering your mind
and not allowing the
wrong to haunt you.
The choice to forgive
also means that you
chose not to hold it
over his head as well.
You chose to not let
the wrong ruin your
future.The bible states
that “Love  bears all
things, believes all
things, hopes all things,
endures all things.”
1Cor 13:7 Take that
with a grain of salt.
There are unacceptable
behaviors in a
relationship that can
justify a termination.
Only you can decide
what is unacceptable in
a relationship and
what is worth your
forgiveness. Everyone
should have an
understanding of things
that are intolerable
such as: physical,
verbal, emotional
abuse and adultery.
The list can go on and
be tailored to your
How do you determine
the treatment you
accept from a
relationship?  ”We
accept the love we
think we deserve.”
Stephen Chbosky. So
keep your standards
high and your heart
Be blessed, spread the love.

About Nike Adedokun

Hello friends! I am so excited to meet you. I am Nike Adedokun, a Relationship and sexuality Coach. I help people build healthy relationships, emotionally balanced minds and sexually purified lives through consultancy, strategies and trainings. As a Master practitioner of NLP and Results coach, I deliberately reposition singles emotionally, mentally and sexually to enable them attract the kind of partner that would give them a purposeful relationship. Presently, I host great minds on a WhatsApp Class, The Mind Shift Network Masterclass. It's a class that centres around building healthy hearts, minds and sexuality. If you want to join us, just send a mail to adenikeadedokun@gmail.com with your details and you are in! Please do navigate through the various posts, podcasts, store and testimonials. Glad to have you here. Don't forget to follow me on twitter @NikeAdedokun. Choose to live healthy and stay purified!
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