9 Things your relationship needs from you.


Relationships requires work. They don’t just
materialize and maintain
themselves, and they aren’t
built on a foundation of
convenience either. They
take time and patience and
two people who are willing
to put in the effort.
Here’s how to do your part
– nine things your
relationships need from
1.  Attention
Neglect based on lack of
attention damages
relationships far more often
than malicious abuse.
There’s nothing more vital
to the bond you share with
others than simply being
there for them.
When we pay attention to
each other we breathe new
life into each other. With
frequent attention and
affection our relationships
flourish, and we as
individuals grow stronger.
This is the side effect of a
good relationship – we help
heal each other’s wounds
and support each other’s
Bottom line: Stay in close
touch with those who
matter to you –
communicate openly on a
regular basis. Not because
it’s convenient, but because
these people are worth the
extra effort.
2.  Trust
The entire fabric of our
society – people working,
living and breathing
together – relies on the
positive beliefs we have
about each other – a subtle,
inherent trust. This trust is
the glue that holds every
peaceful civilization
together. Which is why
trust is the greatest
compliment you can give a
person, even greater than
The only way to build this
trust, or find out if
someone is trustworthy, is
to trust them. When you
do, without a doubt, you’ll
automatically get one of
two results: A friend for
life or a lesson for life.
Either way the outcome is
positive – you determine
which relationships are
worth your long-term
attention. Read The SPEED
of Trust .
3.  Honesty
When your intentions are
good and your cause is just,
honesty will always help
you. When your heart is
open to love and truth,
your lips will not utter lies
that haunt you. When
people are honest with each
other up front, the truth
may hurt sooner, but the
suffering always dies faster,
and out of this suffering
comes growth.
Be honest about what’s
right, as well as what needs
to be changed. Be honest
about what you want a
relationship and how you
want to be treated. Be
honest with every aspect of
your relationships, always.
The bottom line is that
relationships don’t hurt.
Lying, cheating and twisting
reality until it screws with
someone’s emotions is what
hurts. Never mess with
someone’s feelings just
because you’re unsure of
your own. If you are
unsure in any way, be sure
to say so. Always be open
and honest.
4.  Loyalty
Stand by those you care
about in their darkest
moments, not because you
want to stand in the dark,
but because you don’t want
them to either. Brave the
shadows alongside them
until they’re able to find
the light. On the flipside,
stand by these same people
on their sunniest days, not
because you want to scorch
your skin, but because
you’re not afraid to let
them shine bright.
In other words, be loyal.
You can’t promise to be
there for someone for the
rest of their life, but you
can sincerely be there for
them for the rest of yours.
When it comes to
relationships, remaining
faithful is never an option,
but a priority. Loyalty
means the world.
5.  Teamwork
The most important trip
you will ever take in life is
meeting others half way.
You will achieve far more
by working with people,
rather than working alone
or against them.
That’s what healthy
relationships are all about –
teamwork. The strength of
every relationship depends
on the strength of its
members, and the strength
of each member depends on
the quality of their
Anyone who helps you to
make your half-hearted
attempts more whole-
hearted through passion,
love and teamwork, is a
precious friend and
teacher. They are part of
your dream team. These
people are out there.
Connect with them and
conquer the world
together. Read Tribes .
6.  Acceptance
There’s no such thing as a
perfect relationship. Even
if it seems perfect now, it
won’t always be.
Imperfection, however, is
real and beautiful. It’s how
two people accept and deal
with the imperfections of a
relationship that make it
The quality of the happiness
between two people grows
in direct proportion to their
acceptance, and in inverse
proportion to their
intolerance and
expectations. They must
appreciate their similarities
and respect their
7.  Forgiveness
Forgiveness is one of the
greatest virtues to which
you should always seek.
Imagine if everyone you
knew was willing both to
apologize and to accept an
apology. Is there any
problem that you all would
not be able to solve?
The willingness to admit
that we are all human, and
to forgive sincerely, is a
sign of your emotional
strength and maturity.
Ultimately, this forgiveness
is for you. It sets you free
from the shackles of the
past so you can take the
future in stride, regardless
of whether you choose to
bring certain people along
for the ride.
Forgiveness is not saying,
“What you did is OK.” It is
saying, “I’m not going to let
what you did ruin my
happiness forever.”
Forgiveness is YOUR
8.  Empathy
Sometimes we feel as
though the world is
crashing down around us,
as if the pain we are
experiencing is unique only
to us in this moment. This,
of course, is far from the
truth. In fact, the very
demons that torment each
of us torment others all
over the world. It is our
challenges and pain that
connect us at the deepest
level. We are all in this
together and we should
treat each other as such.
If you think about the
people who have had the
greatest positive effect on
your life – the ones who
truly made a difference –
you will likely realize that
they aren’t the ones that
tried to give you all the
answers or solve all your
problems. They’re the ones
who sat silently with you
when you needed a
moment to think, who lent
you a shoulder when you
needed to cry, and who
tolerated not having all the
answers, but stood beside
you anyway. Be this person
for the people you care
9.  Self Love
Relationships don’t create
joy, they reflect it. Joy
comes from within.
Relationships are simply
mirrors of the combined joy
that two people have as
individuals. What you see
in the mirror is what you
see in your relationships.
Your disappointment in
others perfectly reflects
your disappointment in
yourself. Your acceptance
of others perfectly reflects
your acceptance of
yourself. Thus, the first
step to having healthy
relationship with anyone
else is to have a healthy
relationship with yourself .
You are powerful and
beautiful when you love
yourself. So get up, look in
the mirror and say, “I love
you, and I mean it!”
Also, respect yourself
enough to never feel guilty
about removing toxic
people from your life. It
doesn’t matter whether
these people are relatives,
romantic interests,
coworkers, old friends, or
new acquaintances – you
don’t have to make room in
your life for people who
make you feel like you’re
less than you are. Read
1,000 Little Things Happy,
Successful People Do
Differently .
Your turn…
What kind of person do you
love to be around? What
specific qualities do you
look for in a friend or
lover? Please leave a
comment below and let us

About Nike Adedokun

Hello friends! I am so excited to meet you. I am Nike Adedokun, a Relationship and sexuality Coach. I help people build healthy relationships, emotionally balanced minds and sexually purified lives through consultancy, strategies and trainings. As a Master practitioner of NLP and Results coach, I deliberately reposition singles emotionally, mentally and sexually to enable them attract the kind of partner that would give them a purposeful relationship. Presently, I host great minds on a WhatsApp Class, The Mind Shift Network Masterclass. It's a class that centres around building healthy hearts, minds and sexuality. If you want to join us, just send a mail to adenikeadedokun@gmail.com with your details and you are in! Please do navigate through the various posts, podcasts, store and testimonials. Glad to have you here. Don't forget to follow me on twitter @NikeAdedokun. Choose to live healthy and stay purified!
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